“I’m not going to win the race mum”

Little T announced this when she woke up on Sports Day.  I replied, “It’s okay sweetie.  As long as you do your best and have fun with your friends.  That’s really what it’s all about, isn’t it?”  She nodded her little head.  Later on I wondered, should I have told her to aim to win?  I remember one of the mums last year told her kids “It’s alright to want to win you know”.  And she’s right.  There’s nothing wrong with wanting to win.  But at the same time, I didn’t want to pressure little T, she’s only six for goodness sake.  And in my opinion, she has too much after school activities.  She does ballet, gymnastics and swimming.  I’m not even including her cello lessons which they do in their school.  The thing is, she loves her ballet, gymnastics, although I suspect she loves her swimming class only because most of her close friends are in the same class, so it’s really like an extended play-time for all of them.  But who am I to complain when she loves and enjoys all of them.

We never tell her to aim for the gold, or aim to win.  We always say “have fun”, because to us, that’s all that matters.  We want our little girl to enjoy and have fun.  The pressure goodness knows will come soon, no matter how hard we try to avoid it, so why start now?  Like I mentioned, she’s only six.

And that little girl who doubted herself, but did her best, and not to mention is the youngest and shortest  in their class won the race and not because we told her to win –  it was all her doing.  She didn’t aim to win.  But as her dad said, she ran as fast as her little legs could carry her and won the race.

At the end, I didn’t even know she won, I thought it was E, who is a year older than T and has really long legs, and was leading the race at the beginning.  Her dad said “No, T won!”  I said “Really?  Not T with her short legs”.  He said, “Yes T won!”.  I walked back to my husband and said “Did you see that?”  He said “Yes, I’m so proud of her”  And when I looked at my husband, he was all teary-eyed. I guess my little T did win after all.

Later that night, we looked at the photos and the video I took and my husband gasped.  He explained that he told her to not clench her fist, but to relax and open her palms up and then lunge forward when nearing the finish line.  If you peer at the photos I took (although those were taken not in the actual race that she won, but the relay race of her entire team), she actually listened to her dad and relaxed her hand instead of clenching it.

My little daughter, she’s astonishing, isn’t she?  She certainly is.  We are so proud of her.


  1. Catherine Walder

    Excellent work, T! I got teary-eyed there as well. I could feel how proud you are. Sometimes the shortest could also be the quickest xx And well done to dad for his sound advice!

    M’s school will have their Sports Day in July. I’ll be grateful if she’ll at least finally grasp the concept of a “race.” Last year, during her turn at relays, she would WAIT for the children of the other teams to go back to base before she’d even move. Bless!
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    • T and her friends used to do that. I think they did that in their first ever sports day. Last year, T was left in the starting line because she was too dreamy to even know that the race has begun! Good thing she didn’t come in last though 😉

  2. Kate @ Did That Just Happen Blog

    Yes, she is absolutely astonishing and amazing!

  3. Merlinda Little

    Like T, Sebastian is the shortest and one of the youngest in his class. I always worry about him and he never win anything sporty hehe. Pressure will come and like you for now I just want him to have fun and enjoy moments like this. She looks fierce in that field though and that’s awesome! #countrykids
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    • Thanks Merlinda and you’re so right, what matters is that they all enjoy sports day 🙂

  4. Fiona Cambouropoulos

    Aw such a wonderful outcome and top tips from Dad, I feel a little teary just reading this. I have a feeling little T is going to make you so proud in so many ways as she grows up; and what a stunning setting for sports day with the sea in the background. The best of Cornish life!

    Thank you for sharing with me on #CountryKids

  5. Laura - Dear Bear and Beany

    Ah bless her, that’s brilliant that she won. Well done daddy with the top tips. I can’t wait to see my girls in sports day this year, it will be Alice’s first school one x

  6. Kirsty Dee

    bless her heart, if you try your best and don’t win then that’s amazing but when you do actually win oh wowsers ♥

  7. It’s funny how little ones have a thought in their head and then they do something that changes all that. #CountryKids

  8. This post made me smile so much, well done little T on winning, and well done you for the great advice you gave her 🙂

  9. Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love)

    Oh what a proud moment for you and a huge well done to Little T on winning the race. Sounds like her dad’s advice was spot on. So lovely that she enjoys so many activities and is happy just to have fun taking part – but winning is always nice too! 🙂 #countrykids

    • You are so right, winning is nice too, especially when it’s unexpected 🙂

      • Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love)

        Absolutely! She did you proud. Thank you so much for sharing this with #ftmob too 🙂

  10. Colette

    Oh this is lovely. I was (and still am) rubbish at sport and never played to win but equally never played for enjoyment either.

    • I am rubbish at sports too. But T is sporty and so is her dad 🙂

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