If you’ve been following my blog for some time now, you will know that when little T started school, we went through a tough time of bursting into tears, of her not wanting to go to school every single morning. It was a difficult phase for all of us, especially my darling daughter.
It went on for about two weeks. Then thankfully it stopped and she was fine. She started her gymnastics class which she loved straight from the start and didn’t even cry on her first day. Maybe because she knew that we were just in another room waiting for her, unlike school where she knew she was going to be left-alone.
Most of the kids in her school went to an after school-activity called “Star Makers”. It’s a drama/sing and dance class which a mother from little T’s class runs in the village hall not far from little T’s class. When she first heard about it, she adamantly declared “I’m not going to star-makers!” which was okay with us. I didn’t want her to have too many after-school activities anyway.
Then over the weeks, more of her shell has been shed and one day, on her own, she decided that she also wanted to go to Star Makers just like all her friends.
After her first session months ago, she came home skipping and said “I wish it were star-makers everyday!”
And last Monday, they had their first ever production of “Lion King”. It was really a small show, just set in the village hall with all the parents watching. Little T was just one of the animals, just like the rest of her friends.
Watching her perform left a little lump in my throat and a swelling in my heart. She was absolutely loving every minute of it. There was no fear in her eyes, there was joy in them as she danced and sang along with her friends. My husband and I were beaming with pride, I’m sure all the parents present felt the same.
And I said to myself, this is what it’s all about. This is what motherhood/parenthood is all about, the lump in my throat and swell in my heart – This is everything. Moments like this one is what matters. When she’s happy and confident in herself and basking in every single moment of it.
Yes, there are bad days. Days when you wonder, plodding down the road to do the school-run, “Is this it? Is this what my life is all about now. Is this really it?”
To that mother, who is asking the same questions above, my answer would be. “Yes it is. Yes this is it. And it is everything and it may seem nothing to you at that moment, but you’ll find other moments, when you stop and think and say to yourself, proudly … Yes, this is it. This is my life and I’m loving every single minute of it”.
See that little girl standing with her little animal headgear? She used to hide behind my legs every time someone said hello to her.
She used to cover her eyes when someone would look at her and when someone asked her a question, you’d have to strain yours ears just to hear her very soft reply. Today she says “Oh yes, please” if you offered her something she wanted. If she wasn’t interested, she’d confidently say, “No thank you”.
Starting school and all her other activities has made who she is today: A happy, smart and confident little girl who loves everything about her four-year-old life. And this is what matters, this is why looking at those photos leaves a lump in my throat and a swelling in my heart. This is what it is and what it should always be about.
When those days come rolling back in (and they will come back, they always do) and you start to doubt yourself all over again and wonder Is this it? Is this really it? These photos will speak back to me and reply, “Yes it is. At the moment, yes, this is it… And aint it grand?”
Do you have those moments too?