June Chat with a Dad: Grant of Looking for the Postman

Tell us something about yourself, your blog and your little ones:

Historically, I’ve been involved mostly with the music industry. I worked with bands and artists doing remixes. I also worth with MTV, New Line Cinema, Electronic Arts and toured / DJ’d with countless bands. I still dabble with music, writing original tunes and soundtracks for short film.
In recent years, I started blogging. Initially, it was observations about online competitions. It eventually expanded into a blog on family life, told with tongue firmly in cheek. If you’re looking for advice on how to be a better person while nurturing your family, then I’m probably not the best place to visit. If, however, you are interested in humorous views on things that Dads encounter on a daily basis, you should drop by.

My family blog pieces are inspired by my Mrs, Emma, and our combined total of four kids. Rachel (my step-daughter) is about to turn 18. Jack is 13 and lives with his mum. Jenny & Eve are 4 and 3 and could power a blog by themselves with their antics.

What were their birth stories like?

I’ve written in depth about the births of Jenny, Eve & Jack. (Given that Rachel was born eleven years before I knew Emma, it would have been extremely awkward if I had been there!)

 Jack was born C-section. He went breach at the last possible moment and has been just as contrary for his entire life!

 Jenny went back-to-back and the docs were hanging around with an emergency C-section kit but didn’t get to use it. Emma got two horrible cuts and out she came.

Eve was trouble. Emma’s waters broke after 30 weeks. She was hospitalised because of risk of infection, but managed to hold on for another 5 weeks. Trooper. Eve was 5lb 5oz and wouldn’t eat. She dropped down to 5lbs and went to a specialised ward before she changed her mind and decided to eat after all. She was a long baby. Purple and not an ounce of fat on her.

What you wish about being a dad before becoming one?

I wish I’d been better with money before I had kids. I also wish I had learned about woodworking and suchlike so I could have made things for my kids – cots, beds etc. I didn’t appreciate things like that when I was young. Nevermind. There’s still time to make them things as they grow up!

How do you manage your time between work, blogging and fatherhood?

I try my best to write blog posts when the kids aren’t there. I’ve got to be in a particular mood to write. When I get into the zone, I can write quickly, but that level of concentration just isn’t possible with the kids around, nor is it fair to expect them to be quiet so I can blog!

How do you manage child-free time with your wife/partner?  Do you have date nights?

We cook for each other all the time. We do try, on a Saturday, to wait until the kids have gone to bed and then we cook something special. Even better is a date night where we go out for a meal. It’s all about sharing good food with the person you love!

Any favourite anecdotes of your kids?

Jenny’s comments have me in stitches. She just waffles on and comes out with gems. Age 3, when talking about her little sister, she said “Eve is just an egg with shoes on”. When she saw a black and white cow, she described it as a “horse panda”.

What is it about fatherhood you love about?

The best things about fatherhood are the relationships you develop. Watching my kids grow, and sharing that with my wife. Experiencing things through their eyes and watching as they discover new experiences. I spent almost all my time at Disneyland Paris watching my kids, wide-eyed, and loving it.

If there’s anything about fatherhood you dislike about, what would it be?

I dislike:
- being woken during the night.
- when the kids finish their dinner and it’s something I like so I can’t have the leftovers.
- arguments & having to put a child on the naughty spot.
- when a child hurts themselves, falls or cries.
- discovering that one of the girls has shoved nappy pants in with the laundry but only after its been through the wash and exploded.
- nits.

If you were given the chance to be a stay-at-home dad, would you take it?

Yes! I’ve been self-employed and worked from home before. If I could be a combination of a self-employed writer / composed and stay at home dad, then that would suit me perfectly.

Best advice you’ve received about fatherhood?

Not advice, per se, but I do take inspiration from other parents. Everybody remembers their own parents and makes their own judgements on what they remember. So, there’ll be things you want to retain from your own parents and some things you want to do differently.
 Out with that, my role model would be Emma’s father, Ray. He’s so patient with the children, self-less and generous. He just immediately says ‘yes’ whenever anything is asked of him and always says the right thing.

If you could give yourself advice before becoming a dad, what would it be?

Advice?
 Um, don’t worry about your kid’s behaviour too much. At a young age, everything is a phase.
 Be patient. If something is stressing you out, that’s your reaction to a situation. Since the reaction is yours, you can control it. Take a moment, a deep breath and then re-evaluate. 
Remember that your kids only get one childhood. Do everything to make it the best that you can.

Thank you so much Grant!

If you enjoyed getting to know more about the dad behind the blog Looking for the Postman, do check out his blog for more of his musings.

You can also follow him over at Facebook, twitter, G+ and Youtube

And if you’ve missed last month’s chat wit a mum, do come and have a read.

41 Comments

  1. It’s very nice to read about parenthood and those special family moments from a Dads point of view. Not many have time or patience to keep a blog.

    • I know, same here. I don’t have trouble finding mums who blog, but dad’s who blog? Definitely not as many as the mums who do 😉

  2. Lyndsey O'Halloran

    I love reading about how other parent’s lives are so different from my own. It’s nice to see that you make sure you get a ‘date night’ especially with 4 kids. We don’t get that now with only 1!!

    • Same here. We only have one child too and our date-nights consist of watching a dvd at home!

  3. Jess Powell (Babi a Fi)

    Fab interview – sounds like Grant has such a cool day job too! My favorite bit was ‘horse panda’ though, that really needs to take off. 🙂
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    • My fave was when he said that one of his dislikes about fatherhood is when his kids eat all their dinner up, which means he won’t have any left overs 😉 Found that hilarious.

  4. Northern Crumble

    I think you should definitely look at pursuing your dreams of being a stay-at-home dad! Fingers crossed with a combination of writing and music work you can do it

  5. Ana De- Jesus

    He is such a lovely man, I remember reading one of his kids birth stories and he is so poignant yet at the same time delivers the kind of sarcastic humor I like.
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  6. Laura @dearbearandbeany

    A fab interview, always lovely to find more about the person behind the blog. I particularly liked the advice about making childhood the best it can be, because they only get one! that is great advice x p.s. lovely to see you back from your blogging break
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    • I’ve had an emergency c-section too after about two days of labour with T. Yep, they definitely know their mind 🙂

  7. Danielle

    It was lovely to read from a dads point of view, date nights sound amazing I miss spending time as a couple and totally agree with the writing blog posts when kids aren’t around its to stressful xx

  8. Fashion and Style Police

    This was a lovely read. I enjoy reading his blog posts.

    • I know what you mean. T is five and I too find it difficult to write, always end up getting interrupted!

  9. laura dove

    Haha horse panda made me laugh out loud!! That’s so funny! I loved reading this and learning more about you!
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  10. Kara Guppy

    Lovely interview – my fave anecdotes from the kids is a black and white horse which Sebby calls a cow horse LOL

  11. Alina Ghost

    I can’t imagine how much you have to do as a parent, I barely have time for myself these days. It’s really sweet that Grant wants to learn woodwork, as you said mate it’s never too late and although you may have missed the opportunity in the past the time is now to make stuff 😉

    Interesting read, thanks

    Alina from The Fairytale Pretty Picture
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  12. This is such a lovely post especially dad point of view. I’m amazed how parents manage their time well. Both blogging and work even though I don’t have a family of my own but find it hard to find time with having busy schedules.

  13. Mudpie Fridays

    I can only imagine how amazing Disneyland is through your kids eyes I so want to take Monkey!! If you manage to work out that whole self employed writing gig let me know!! That would be perfect for me too!! 🙂
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    • I have this video of T riding the carousel at Disney Paris and the different expressions on her face was priceless all through out the ride. Would love to visit again. x

  14. Zena's Suitcase

    I loved this interview, I’m a huge fan of Grant’s blog so it was good to get to know a little more about him. His parting words are so true, many deep breaths are required in the early years of parenting
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    • I enjoy reading his blog too and yes, learned so much about patience when T was younger… Still actually learning 😉

  15. Hannah Budding Smiles

    Lovely interview, I do enjoy Grant:’s blog and wow to 3 pretty intense sounding birth stories!xx

    • I love reading about other people’s birth stories, as mine was also dramatic!

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