Tag: friendship

All About A Boy

If you’ve been following my blog, you will know that T has a best-friend named F.  I’ve mentioned him countless times here.  He is an important little person in my daughter’s life, in our life, especially since we have now become good friends too with his family.  I’ve never shown his face before out of respect for S and C (his parents).   But this time, I’ve asked permission from them to post the following photos just to show you how adorable this little V.I.P in my daughter’s life is.  He is the cutest little boy in the world.  Yes, I’m biased.  But hey, this is my blog!

They first met at play-group (children under 2) and bonded over trains and cars.  T and F loves trains and cars.  I don’t really remember when exactly she declared that he was her best-friend, what I know is she started saying this after her second birthday.

The first photo was taken  on T’s second birthday.  F is just about a month older than T.  This was after her party.

And this was taken on T’s third birthday.  See how much they’ve grown?  We took them out to celebrate on an impromptu birthday picnic and steam-train-ride.  I wrote about that on this post.

Waiting for the steam-train to take us back to Launceston.  Aren’t’ they loveliest little BFFs?

They are so good together.  Don’t get me wrong, like all best-friends they also have their moments.  You would hear T suddenly burst into tears and hear a little protest from F, sometimes it escalates but most times, you’ll hear them laughing.  And F takes care of T, like really looks after her.  One time, I wasn’t with them.  They were out with F’s parents at the Farm shop.  T and F were playing outside and there was one bigger and older boy who didn’t want T to play in the toy tractor.  T burst into tears and when F saw this, he came bounding up, my husband was too far so he didn’t hear what F said to the big boy.  But the bully backed down and and let T in.  They also like to play “saving-each-other”.  T plays a very good damsel-in-distress, when she needs “saving” F would come up to her with his “strong-big-hands” and save her.  And she’d do the same for him, though admittedly, he does most of the “saving”.

I’m wondering though how long it will last.  When do boys start ‘hating’ girls and vice-versa?  Who knows?  They might  just skip that stage and just be friends… always.  Wouldn’t that be nice?

This post is linked-up with PODcast’s What’s they Story.

And The Oliver’s Madhouse

What about you?  Do you remember your first best-friend?

February Chat with a Mom: Mariah Mambo

There are some people you meet in life and you know right away that they will always be your friend, no matter the distance or the lack of communication.  Mariah is one of them.  We met in Ghana, West Africa, where we both worked as volunteers and instantly hit it off.

Six years later, we are both mothers and despite the distance our friendship still thrives.

Tell us something about yourself, your little ones (age & sex).

I am a lawyer by profession, a mother by choice, a wife through love and divine intervention of course. I live with my husband and two children in Nairobi, Kenya. Apart from these truths my true passion lies in recreating spaces and fictional writing. I intend to pursue the two this year more faithfully.

I have two. Amara my first is a girl four years old, never encountered a more loving, cheeky and smart person. She never ceases to amaze me, she has a great sense of humour, bigger than herself and her age and she always cracks me up. I actually look forward to walks with her and stuff like that when the strangest of things will be uttered and silent moments shared when I know for sure I want to be around her for very long. My son Muriuki is nine months now, speaking of energy ball! He is all over the place at any one given time, never wants to stay still and is generally a very happy person, he is a bit of a mama’s boy but I am not complaining, I love to be needed.

Your child’s birth story(ies): What was it like?

Well, both my babies were born via caesarean section. I was intended to have a normal delivery up till eight months for Amara when I realized reduced foetal movement, I was hospitalised and she was born two weeks before her due date. I remember not being afraid (which is very unlike me considering I have control issues let’s read lightly into this ok?) My options were discussed with me and I opted to have a spinal block (again trying to seize back some of the control I had lost) so I could be awake when I had her. I spoke to my obgyn and anesthesiologist all through the procedure and even managed to crack a few jokes here and there. She never cried when she was delivered and that’s the only point when I really went cold with fear. I remember asking her pediatrician why my baby was silent but she assured me she had it under control. She cried what seemed ages after (could have been not more than 5 minutes, just felt like eons!) and the rest is well a long story.

My OBGYN decided not to allow me to have a normal delivery for my son no matter how much I begged; he presented me with a whole list of medical reasons blah blah blah so I just decided to go with him. I was afraid this time round, I am not sure why honestly. I opted for a spinal block as I did for my daughter; for the same reasons. My husband was with me during this delivery and it really helped calm me done. I will never forget how loud and long Muriuki cried; it was so shocking, just like the movies actually (so much for expecting birth to be close to movies huh, this was as close as it got for me!) He still cries like that sometimes, that piercing wail that brings my heart to a stop sometimes! He really needs to stop that!! His birth was uneventful; we spent a few very long nights at the hospital and we continue to spend long nights together.

What you wish you knew about being a mother before becoming one.

That it would totally change life for me, forever! I knew there would be changes but I did not realize how monumental they would be.

Every possible thing you could think of as a human being changes; say for example sitting through a meal, sleeping seven hours straight, driving in silence, watching a movie to the end in one sitting, listening to the music of your choice whilst driving, some unmentionables, grocery shopping; please don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining it’s just that I never had that ‘aha’ moment until my kids came along (now laughing hysterically) I have embraced my life with all its changes because I cannot envision it without my munchkins!

How do you manage your “me” time?

This I must admit I have not been very good at (blame it on my control issues) It has taken me very long; actually the duration of my daughter’s life to realize that hey, I need to rediscover myself.

I now delegate two days in the week where I consciously drive away from my house and just be me. I have to leave because although my daughter is away at school, my son is always around (hehe). I spend this time doing all sorts of things from just sitting and having a cup of coffee, to meting up with a friend, to window shopping, getting my hair done to even having a solo glass of wine. I have started the year being bolder by even taking a weekend off with my husband, just to reconnect and just be us.

Any favourite anecdote about your child?

My daughter has never had problems with feeding; she does a fantastic job and I know I am truly blessed to have one of those. Well she also believes that the faster she clears all her meals the faster she will grow (she wants to be as big as mama tomorrow please!) so after clearing her breakfast in one fast swoop one Saturday morning she comes to my bedroom and declares ‘Papa, I finished all my food, tomorrow when I am big like mama I will have big boom booms like her’. Safely figure out what big boom booms are…..

What is it about motherhood you simply love about?

Motherhood has changed me for the better. I know what it means to honestly in love and care for someone else regardless of whatever situation I find myself in. It has forced me to slow down and take in life one day at a time, appreciating everything about it. Motherhood has seriously done a number on my spirituality; I witness God and his faithfulness every single day through the lives of my children. I can say that I am a better person because of them.

If there was one thing about motherhood you disliked about, what would it be?

I totally dislike the unsolicited advice! Everyone has a tale; yes a tale on how you should be raising your young ones! ‘If you do this, this is the definite outcome’ ‘It’s too hot for that, too cold for that’: ‘Try this home remedy!’ SO UNSOLICITED!

What’s a typical day like for you and your little one?

Amara is in preschool so our day starts off with breakfast and then a frantic session of getting her into her uniform. She runs around the room, has a story to tell, she can also have a session where she refuses to wear the undies and shoes you picked out for her despite double checking with her the night before. She stays in school until 3.30pm when she returns home. She will often have a play date with my neighbour’s daughter or take a walk to a bridge a few meters away from our house with her nanny and her brother; then it’s time for a shower and dinner and some TV time before bed at 8. Kindly note this is on a good day…things go horribly wrong most of the time! What with tantrums and all!

I have help (thank God) so Muriuki will have his cereal around 8 (he has had a bottle around 6.30) he watches Amara get ready for school; gets kissed goodbye if he is lucky and has a schedule that he mostly adheres to during the day; he takes a nap around 10 for two hours has lunch when he gets up; watches some cartoons or lazes in the garden with toys, takes another nap at around three for 45 min and spends the evening with Amara, myself and his papa until he goes to sleep at 8.

Best advice you’ve ever received about motherhood or mothering.

Was from one of my best friends; considering she knows that I have the urge to be a perfectionist (this will never be a good thing for anyone to suffer from, more so a mother with multiple children) she advised me to just take each day at a time; there are not enough hours in a day to be a mother to two children, a wife to my husband, a great cook, a perfect housekeeper etc, so I have learnt to chill and just go with the flow.

If you could give yourself advice long before you became a mother, what would it be?

I guess I would have to go with Kala on this one. For too long I suffered from this feeling, it never went away and I wish anyone becoming a mother could embrace this FACT and realize it’s ok to feel this way.

How do you manage your time as a freelancer and as a mother?

Sorry to say but I have put too much aside for too long and I am only now seizing back what is rightfully mine, guilt free. I have official assignments on and off and for these I work night and day literally to deliver on deadlines. I am now taking a few hours off each day to start writing again and trying to make a business idea I have a reality. I have realized that I come home; after those hours feeling lighter in the head and heart and ready to deal with ALL the demands that come with being a mama.

Thank you Mariah!