I love discovering new blogs, especially new ones by Dads! And Daddy Space is a recent find of mine which I’m excited to share with you guys and I guess it also helps that his kids are so adorable too! So come and have a read with me and let’s get to know James of Daddy Space together:
Tell us something about yourself and your little one(s).
I’m a full-time Precision engineer at a small firm in Plymouth, I have three children Charlie aged 4, Harry aged 3 and Olivia 20 months. We try to have as much fun as possible and we also film everyday and upload them to our family vlog channel ‘The Gibblets’ on youtube.
What was your little one(s) birth story(ies) like?
Remarkably uneventful all three were really normal deliveries. The most eventful thing to happen during Charlie’s birth was the cord was wrapped around his neck. Harry’s birth saw him do a poo but he was well on the way so there were no concerns and everything checked out fine. Olivia’s was totally uneventful it was a text-book delivery the most eventful thing for us was finding out the sex which I had righteously decided I’d like to do this time around as for both the boys we found out.
What you wish you knew about being a Dad before becoming one?
This may sound obvious but it’s not until you have a family that you realise that you need to be relied upon all the time, be it for financial reasons or just for being around. I think if I had realised the gravitas of this information fully before becoming a dad I’d have concentrated on getting the career I wanted through studying towards a college or university qualification.
How do you balance your time between work and fatherhood?
I make sure I do all my overtime in the morning which does mean an unearthly 6.30am start, but this does mean that I’m home with my family by 4.45pm. Then I also get to have Friday afternoons at home which is nice for the kids especially in the winter to have me home during daylight hours. I try not to work lots of extra hours even though the overtime is available because I remember my dad being at work a lot in the evening. It was essential that he work the extra shifts so we had food on our plates but you do not understand that as a child.
How do you manage child-free time with your wife? Do you have date-nights?
We try to fit date nights in and we have a good number of willing babysitters but we have become so consumed with our routine we just simply forget to plan them. This is something our relationship could benefit from and I think I need to work on this.
What is it about fatherhood you love about?
The small things like coming home and seeing their excited faces at the window and getting smothered with cuddles as I walk in the door everyday. This is something Mummy doesn’t get because she is always around.
If there is anything about fatherhood you dislike about, what would it be?
As every man would agree I don’t like the “not being listened to bit”, especially from a 4 Year old. It’s an inevitable part of any child growing up, pushing the boundaries as far as they dare, but it doesn’t make it any bit less frustrating.
If you were given the chance to be a stay-at-home-Dad would you take it?
Yes I think I would. I often think I never would be able to cope but if I were a stay at home dad that would be my job I’d have a routine and when I think of it like that it becomes a positively exciting prospect.
Best Advice you’ve ever received about Fatherhood?
Every baby is different and nobody has written a book that suits your baby.
If you can give yourself advice before becoming a Dad, what would it be?
Relax and just enjoy every minute, try not to stress about the little things and just enjoy your child because they grow so quickly.
Thank you so much James and your lovely little ones!
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