May Chat with a Mom: Kate of Did That Just Happen?

Kate of Did that Just Happen is candid, funny and witty.  She’s one of the bloggers whom I’ve had the pleasure to connect with through blogosphere and though I’ve never met her in person I know that she is probably one of the kindest, warmest and most sincere person I’ve ever met whether in person or in blogger land.

I follow and enjoy a number of blogs but I can only think of a few bloggers who are genuine in their writing and she definitely is!  With Kate, you know that what you read is what she is – a pure delight, lovely (both in and out) and a person who emanates warmth.

Tell us something about yourself and your little ones (age & sex)

I’m a single mom of a 15-year-old boy. I love to read, and do crafts to give away as gifts to my friends. We live by our family calendar in the kitchen. Pretty much if it’s not on the calendar it doesn’t happen and Mr. T and I will both stand there with our phones and update the family calendar! Between his life and mine, friends and family, we stay very busy. Plus, he’s a varsity cheerleader now! He is the first mascot his High School has ever had It’s pretty special (this is the second year the school has been open, he’ll be the mascot next year).

What was your child’s birth story like?

All of those books that tell you that you will know when you are in labor, and you will know when your water breaks and that “back contractions” aren’t a thing are all crap. My water broke and I had no idea! So, I moved some furniture the night before, and the next day my body was acting funny. I just happen to mention something to my mom that night and she insisted that I get to the doctor the next day. She made my dad come get me (and my hospital bag) and take me to the doctor because she didn’t think I should be driving. Sure enough, I was in labor, my water was broke and I was to head to the hospital immediately. I was crying a bit when I told my dad he had to take me to the hospital and he asked why – and I told him “I’m not ready! I’m supposed to have several more weeks!!”

The nurses all laughed at me as they hooked me up to meds, “So you’re the girl who has been in labor for 24 hours and didn’t know it!”

Yes, that is me. Thanks.

Fast forward until almost midnight. Like a full 2 days after the start of labor and the dialog went like this:

MR. T: Knock, knock, knock. Can you let me out of here?
MY BODY: Nope, not happening.
MR. T: Please? I am really ready to come!
MY BODY: Nope, not happening.

One emergency caesarean later and I was holding a beautiful baby boy!

What you wish you knew about being a mother, before becoming one?

That it is okay to ask for help. That no one has to do this on their own and that a lot of times, others want to help! They want to hold the infant so you can eat your lunch Of course, that doesn’t apply when a dirty diaper is involved, then sadly, you are on your own!

How do you manage your “me-time”?

Now that Mr. T is older, it is easier to have “me time” – it’s harder to find “me and T time”.

Do you have a favourite anecdote of your little one?

Okay, seriously, my child is so cute and adorable that every anecdote is my favorite. Can I come up with one now that you’ve put me on the spot? Absolutely not! So here is a picture instead!

What is it about Motherhood you absolutely love about?

I love the unlimited supply of hugs. I love that my teenage son will seek me out at bedtime just to say good night and give me a hug.

If there is anything about Motherhood you dislike about, what would it be?

Where is my magic wand? I hate the days where it feels like I’ve failed because I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do or because I can’t fix it. I want the magic wand that gives me the answers and cures all that is wrong! Sometimes it was when he was sick, and sometimes it is because of something he is going through, I just want to make it all better!

What’s a typical day like for you and your son?

While I’d love to say that we spend so much time together and I have lots of crafts for us to do and games to play, and naturally they are all educational – yeah, that’s not my life! Unlike most of your readers, my son is a teenager, so we are dealing with driving lessons, Mascot/cheer practice and just keeping his room clean!

Best advice you’ve ever received about Motherhood?

Cherish the time.

If you could give yourself advice about motherhood before becoming one, what would it be?

Listen to those that told you to cherish the time together. It sounds so cliché, but just yesterday Mr. T could fit in my arms. Now, he is big enough to carry me around!

How do you manage your time between work and your little one?

I don’t, I just make it up as I go along. I try to pay attention to my son and see what signals he is giving off. Friday I picked him up early from school and we hit the theater to watch a movie. We had a great time together and I just worked for a few hours later that night. I am very fortunate that a job opportunity opened up almost 10 years ago, about the time that Mr. T really needed me in his life more, that has allowed me to work from home and limits my time away from him. It has helped us both out and I feel very blessed to be able to have a work/life balance!

Thanks so much Kate!

Do check out her blog, you won’t regret it!


  1. Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

    Dean, thank you so very much for letting me be a part of your Chat with a Mom, I feel very honored and the kind words you spoke just filled my heart!

      • Dean B

        Kate, your followers are the sweetest bunch! I feel like I’ve somehow gate-crashed a party… but I’m enjoying myself so much! 🙂

      • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

        I was just sitting here thinking that you must have paid them in advance! 🙂 I can’t thank you enough for this opportunity, it really has filled my heart to overflowing!

        • Dean B

          And here I was, thinking you were the one who foot the bill! 😉

  2. Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

    Reblogged this on Did That Just Happen Blog and commented:
    I’m a guest over at Little Steps today! Please go check out my interview about being a mom!

    I’m going to turn off comments over here, so please show Dean how total cool we are and leave your comments over there! And if you don’t already follow her, you should!

  3. ortsofsorts

    Kate is such a great MOM! She is a role model to all moms! Thank you, Dean, for chatting with her and sharing her with so many!

    • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

      Thanks so much Ortofsorts for stopping by and saying so! Considering how much I look up to you, that means a lot!

  4. findingcoopersvoice

    I love Kate too!!!!!!!! Kate, your son is such a cutie. Cherrish the time is right. They are babies for a hot minute!

  5. gracedbyemilie

    I really want that magic wand too! It would make being a Mom so much easier. Not many people can admit that they make it up as they go, which I find sad because I think the best parenting sometimes is the flexibility to make it up as we go. To feel out our kids and respond to their specific needs. WTG Kate. I’m glad to have you in my corner helping me on this crazy journey.

    • Dean B

      I’m sure all moms would love to have that magic wand too. I also think most moms do make it up as they go, whether they admit it or not, even for those who have more than one child. After all, kids are different! 🙂

      • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

        I think we should start making magic wands! Move over Harry Potter… we got “Momma Magic” coming through!

  6. Life in the Wylde West

    completely enjoyed this 100%! I love how you feature other bloggers on your blog Dean, you do know it’s because of you I have met so many other really awesome bloggers like specifically Kate, I met her because of you and now both of you are two of my tops! I love the down to earth-ness of both of you. I love how you got the point of view from a mom of a 15 year old male. She has lived it and she is so right about cherishing that time. It also just dawned on me this very day, Kate and I both have 15 year old sons. My soccer player is 15 too!

    • Dean B

      Wow, how nice! All the while I thought you and Kate were “friends” long before all three of us were “friends”! I didn’t know your soccer player is 15 too, somehow I thought he was a bit older like 16! 🙂 While I’m an old(ish) mum with a 3-year-old, I like that I sort of can get advice from you two! 🙂 You’re next Tracie! 😉

  7. kimberlyharding

    so not surprised by this. I have been following Kate’s blog for some time now. Her warmth, compassion, awareness (and killer sense of humor) always shine through!

    • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

      Awe, thank you Miss K! So sweet! I may have to show up on Dean’s blog each month, you have fed my soul with all of the kind words!

  8. fourcalders

    How very cool. I follow both you lovely ladies and the one above. Isn’t this WWB (wonderful world of blogging) groovy. Love your post above Kate. You always make me smile with your posts and you too Dean with the amazing adventures you have with your family and wayward cats. And I have known Tracie through our love of photography and similar interests and families for what is starting to feel like a life time too. Glad I followed over and found I know more people than I thought. 🙂

    • Dean B

      Oooh. How cool is that? 🙂 I’m not so sure about the amazing adventures though, more like little mishaps! Hahaha 😉 But thanks so much for following and I’m glad that we all follow each other! x

  9. Deborah

    I already follow Kate, and now I’m following you, too! 🙂


    Great interview. First off, her description of you is spot on from what I would say.
    That is one crazy labor story. I think it speaks volumes that your son seeks you out before going to bed to say good night. As I’ve said before, you are clearly doing somethings right.

    • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

      Thanks Larry! I feel very blessed that T still seeks me out, and for all of your support!

  11. The Vanilla Housewife

    I laughed out loud when you told everybody at the hospital that you’re not ready because I did that too! I wasn’t supposed to give birth till the week after but after an ultrasound they found out about the oligo issue so I had to be whisked to the OR. I told my doctor I wanted to go home first because I haven’t packed my bag. LOL Sigh. Motherhood. Crazy but fun.

      • The Vanilla Housewife

        Take two. My comment went down the drain. Oligohydramnius I believe. Cant memorize the darn word. Its when the amniotic fluid level goes really low and can be fatal to the baby. They had to perform emergency cs. I’m just thankful that I had a scheduled ultrasound that day. Otherwise I would never had known.

        • Dean B

          Wow, that’s freaky! So glad things turned out the way they did then 🙂 I had an emergency CS too. That’s a long story, let’s save it for another day 😉

      • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

        wow!! it is really good that you had an ultrasound scheduled Jhanis! And, I’m so glad that I’m not the only one that told the doctors that I wasn’t ready!

  12. Winding road

    I’m an avid follower of Miss Kate…lovely to learn more about her! And “cherish the time” is certainly the best advice ever given.

    • Hi! Great to “meet” one of Kate’s many friends/followers 🙂 Thanks for dropping by.

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