November Chat with a Mum: Tracie of Life in the Wylde West

Three Reasons why I love Tracie’s Blog Life in the Whylde West, and why you should too.

1. Her photographs are poetry, so if you’re into poetry or photography, or just like looking at lovely photos, then you’ll love her blog too.  They don’t only tell a story, but also stirs feelings inside of you.  I want to be the kind of photographer she is.

2.  She’s a wonderful mother.  One I really admire and if you’re a mother, you’ll most probably relate with her posts too.

3. Her blog-posts are honest.  If she’s having a bad day, she’ll tell you and when she’s happy, you’ll know it too, you’ll feel it in her posts, in her words and in her photographs.

Here at Chats with Mums and Dads I often wonder if I should stop with the Q&A. It’s almost two years now, but reading Tracie’s answers, reminds me why I even started with it.  I started the “chats” because I wanted to hear their stories, the mums and dads.  I wanted to know what it’s like for them, their birth stories, the ups and lows of parenthood.  I love reading all their stories – because they all inspire me.

Read below you’ll know what I mean:

Tell us something about yourself and your children (age & sex)

I have been married 21 years and 19 years of those 21 have been spent being a mama to two boys and then a little girl. Austin is 19, Dylan is 16 and Abbie is 12.

What were your children’s birth stories like?

Well first of all, I’m not very patient so with my first baby boy I took my brother’s famous really oily salad dressing for dinner 10 days before Austin was due. That night my water broke, labor began and we headed to the hospital early in the morning. I swore I would do it all natural and I held out as long as I could and finally said “give me that epidural! NOW!!” and then everything was relatively okay, I delivered shortly after and still could feel everything on my right side.

My second delivery was similar, only I “thought I was having a girl because my intuition told me so” HE also arrived early by a week with the same salad dressing, water broke but this time right when I walked into the hospital room I said “give me that epidural now!” I felt no pain whatsoever with this child and it was relatively quick and very painless. (STILL TO THIS DAY HE IS THE SAME AS HIS DELIVERY)

Then the littlest and only girl came along. The salad dressing didn’t work with her, I tried twice. (stubborn little girl) Then when she was a few days past her due date, I said “that’s it!! I drank the Castro oil straight” terrible idea. I drank the oil, went for a walk and while I was walking my water broke. I barely made it to the delivery room and there was no time at all for anything and she came out fast, hard and bloody. I think the castor oil was a very bad idea. So thanks to my little girl, I got to experience child-birth without out drugs at least once.

What you wish you knew about being a mother, before becoming one?

I sort of already knew this, I was told but I didn’t quite believe it. They grow up really, really fast. Like lightning speed.

How do you manage your “me-time”?

I take bathes where I lock the door and read my magazines. I went away last spring to our local mountains and spent a weekend with a group of close friends (all women no children or husbands) and most recently I flew all by myself to Portland Oregon to meet up with kindred souls who also love to photograph anything and everything that makes our hearts sing. It was the first time I had met any of them in real live person. I can’t begin to describe in words how therapeutic and necessary it was to just BE with them. I felt like I grew up a little. I had to rent my own car, find my way around and fly solo. It was good for me.

Do you have any favorite anecdote of your kids?

Austin once said when he saw a rainbow “mama, God is the best artist of all!” It made me smile.

Abbie once said she wanted to marry her daddy when she was 4. Smart girl, he is a catch. She will have a challenge when it’s her turn to find love, the comparisons will be tough.

Dylan said when he was 4 he wanted to marry a man because he didn’t want any children. It’s funny how the little ones think. I wish I could be in their head sometimes.

What is it about Motherhood you absolutely love about?

That those little people (kind of big now) need me. They really do. Even my 19-year-old man-child will come to me when he is sick, when he is sad or when he just needs a hug. It feels so good to be needed.

If there is anything about Motherhood you dislike about, what would it be?

The growing up fast part. Although my oldest will reach out to me still, he is so independent and I can tell is pulling away as each day goes by. I know its normal stuff but it’s still not easy. So I cherish the time spent knowing they will all grow up and go away…hopefully not very far though.

What’s a typical day like for you and your family?

I’m a part-time working mama. Which is pretty awesome. I can get up and get them off to school, head to work, work half a day and then be off work in time to pick them each up from school. It feels at times like a lot of just taking and picking up not to mention any outside activities they are involved in. I somehow fit in housework, walks, and making meals and finding that bit of time for me to be creative, take pictures, blog and things like that. Time management is everything.

Best advice you’ve ever received about Motherhood?

It was from my own mother after I had my first baby. She said “the housework will always be there the children will not. Take that time with your kids, it goes quickly.” This came from someone who ironed her sheets, and cleaned until it was bedtime. It meant so much because it was so different than what she did. It was like she realized and she didn’t want me to make the same mistake.

If you could give yourself advice about motherhood before becoming one, what would it be?

That each stage has its challenges and not all challenges are equal but they are equally as important.

How do you manage your time or blogging between work and your family?

It’s not easy. I recently took to writing lists. It helps me get things done. I find time before I leave the house for the day (sometimes I write a quick blog) or as I wait to pick up a kid from school…via my cell phone, or every once in a great while very late at night and sometimes I take the weekends to gather my pictures and thoughts and will write a hand full of posts to go live as the week progresses. It’s the one thing that I really, really look forward to, writing and sharing images via my blog. It’s my outlet for sure. And since I’m often in a rush, my grammar can be wacky or my spelling not quite right but I don’t’ care about that. To me it’s more about getting out my thoughts. It’s truly therapy.

Thank you so much Tracie!

 If you liked what you’ve read in this month’s feature, there’s more of that in her blog.

 Go over and be inspired!

And if you’ve missed last month’s chit-chat with a dad, click here to read.

Have a lovely weekend folks!


  1. Misplaced Brit (@Misplaced_Brit)

    Loved reading this… Especially the comparison that in the same way ‘the washing, ironing and house work could wait… It would always be there, but the children aren’t’, you seem to do the same with your blogging. That fits in in all the ‘in-between’ moments too. It’s not the main focus – taking from the kids.

    • I’m guilty of that sometimes… We have a small house you see, so I always try to get the chores done first or else there won’t be any space for my daughter to play-in! She must come first! 😉

  2. livinginthelanghe

    I really enjoyed reading this, there’s some great stuff in there for fathers as well as mothers (I’ll gloss over the birth stories question). And good advice about making the little things wait and spending more time with the kids!

    • Definitely! … I think as parents we have to constantly remind ourselves that our kids come first 🙂

  3. Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

    I love Tracie – and I’m so glad that you interviewed her! I love her answers and her stories, and I, too, love her blog! She can tell such stories with just a picture!

    And no, don’t give up the question and answer format, I love it, it gives us insight into each other and ourselves!

    • Oh yes, I know you guys are “friends” too. I think I sort of “met” the both of you, around the same time. And I love both your blogs – so there! 😉

      • Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

        There are several of you out there that I wish all lived on my block! I’d have so much fun helping you set up for little T’s events and then making Tracie take pictures of me 🙂

        • Oh my goodness – that would be absolutely perfect! … It’s just so weird, before you wrote that, I was thinking the exact same thing too. It’s 4pm here but looks more like 6pm! I was just thinking I need Kate! 😉

  4. Life in the Wylde West

    Oh Dean, I woke up late today, it was rainy here FINALLY and it just sort of had me wanting to stay in bed to relish the sound and smell. So When I finally got up and got to see you had gone live with our interview, I was all giddy. And you said so many nice things about me (blush) You have a big way of making people feel loved and appreciated. It’s a gift you know to reach out to others and make that human connection. So I feel completely honored and yes me and Kate, we are friends too, I thought it was you who introduced us?? And can you imagine the fun all of us could have. In the meantime I really enjoy your blog and I have to admit I’m a little behind, October came and went like a blink of an eye, I had missed your new look which I adore so I plan to spend some time catching up! Much love, sending so much love.

    Your Friend

    • What a lovely letter! I feel so lucky to have you and Kate on my side 😉 And I’m feeling the love too … Lennon & McCartney got it right, love is all you need 😉

  5. naptimethoughts

    Very nice interview– and very good advice for moms with little ones. It seems like yesterday that mine were in my arms, and now they’re off to school. I can’t imagine my son a man boy– But I know it’s coming. Probably faster than I’d like.

      • naptimethoughts

        me too. We’ve discussed sending her to a convent. I think it’s best for everyone. Or me, I suppose, but I count as everyone in this situation.

        • You’re funny! Between the two of us, it’s my husband who wants to send her to a convent 😉

  6. fourcalders

    What an awesome interview with a wonderful lady. I love and relate to her stories of motherhood so much. I love these Q&A’s. She’s a special one this Tracie of ours. 🙂 xo Lovely post.

    • Thank you so much! Will definitely keep doing the Q&A and yes, Tracie is definitely a special woman 🙂

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