Of Aches and Ageing

A lot of times I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and I don’t recognise myself anymore.  The woman has some slight resemblance to me.  She has streaks of white hair prominent against her black hair.  She looks way shorter than I am and rounder too.  Oh my goodness it’s me!

I’m in my 40s.  Next week I’ll be another year older.  Most days I feel like I’m in my 50s, other times, in my 60s, or worse, 70s. Lately I’ve been feeling a lot of pains in my body.  My back, my joints and my arms.  Over the months, I’ve been to the see the doctor wondering if I have arthritis and maybe something else too.  She asked for a blood test, but it came out normal.  While I am glad that all is good, I’m still left with the question “So what’s ailing me then?”  Our GP also finds this baffling, she doesn’t seem to know what’s wrong with me either.

Of course I don’t really know what it feels like to be 50, 60 or 70.  I’m just taking a wild guess and some people who are of this age, might even feel insulted “I certainly don’t feel that way!”  Yes, I know, it’s probably just me then.

I’m an older mum.  I did the whole career move first, not intentionally though. I was never the career-minded driven type of person. I just felt happy and lucky that I was doing a job I really loved.  It didn’t feel like work at all.  I had a few relationships, yes.  But not serious ones, and looking back, I’m glad I didn’t end up with any of them.  Not that there was anything wrong with them, they just weren’t the right person for me.  And I’m just glad I am where I am right now, with the someone I truly love, with little T, and smelly Doc, even though I’m older than most mums in little T’s school, I’m fine with that too.

Last Wednesday during the afternoon school run, I fell heavily on my right knee, trying to usher two excitable little girls to safety while a car patiently waited for us to move.  I’m glad though that I wasn’t alone and was with a mum friend.  She took us all home in her car.  Being a nurse, she warned me to put my knee up and put a cold compress against it.  But I ignored her.  I didn’t wilfully do it though, my daughter had a play-date that day and I had to get snacks ready and attend to all their demands.  Before I knew it, it was time to go to my daughter’s swimming lessons.  When you’re a mum, you just plod on, don’t you?  There’s no time to whinge and complain, how on earth will we manage that?  The next morning, I woke up with a very bad looking bruise and painful knee.  And since I was going up and down the stairs heaving myself up and using my right arm to do this, it was also aching.

Six days on and it still hurts (but not as bad as before) and I’m still limping.  Little T has also been poorly since Saturday and has been off school.  She was better yesterday though, my husband had to do the school runs on his own.  Poor guy.  I don’t really know what’s wrong with me, but I’ll worry about that some other time, I’m too busy packing.

Do you sometimes feel too old for your age too?

Do share.

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I'm a part-time writer, full-time mother and dog-walker living in a small English village by the sea with my husband, daughter and a dog named Doc.


  1. I could have written this myself, although I do have arthritis and struggle to open bottles and jars. I look in the mirror and see a resemblance to my dad’s side of the family and think I suddenly look old and I am not ready for it

    • Thank you for your comment. I was a bit hesitant to share this at first, I guess because a lot of the mums who seem to blog nowadays are way younger than me, which is great actually. But was worried that no one would really be able to connect with it, I’m glad I did now. I’m actually okay with getting older, it’s the aches and pains that really get to me.

  2. I hope ur knee is now feeling better its a good job u had a mummy friend with u.

    • Thank you. I know, If my friend wasn’t with me, I’d probably have to phone my husband to pick me up, or worse, limp all the way home, which isn’t easy, because we live up a hill! 😉

  3. Alina Ghost

    Oh noooo, I hope you feel better soon. I’ve not had kids yet and am 26, but I like my job very much and not planning them for a while yet. May I ask how old you were when you had your first?
    Really hope your knee is better soon and don’t feel too bad no matter what age you are – at the end of the day I’m sure you and your family are glad and happy the way you’re living now as in the end it helps with the material stance in life. Plod on but don’t forget to have fun too 🙂

    Alina from home decor blog UK – The Fairytale Pretty Picture

    • Thanks Alina. Lovely to be in touch again. Not at all, I was 37 when I had T. You’re still young! Lots of time. Enjoy your career and your husband first before having kids. Xxx

  4. Emma White

    oh I know this feeling my right kidney doesn’t function correctly and some days just walking on the school run leaves me with tears in my eyes – I had my first child at 19 and then 5 more children and my career was often put on hold – I do think if I could go back I would hold off having the children for a few years I am 36 with the body of a 60 year old

  5. I’m probably the youngest Mum in my group of friends (almost 31) – I know that’s not that old (or young) but I recognise this feeling. My daughter wanted to take a photo of my today – I was shocked at the picture! When did I get all those lines under my eyes? Time has a way of creeping on too fast!

    • I still felt invincible when I was in my 30s. And still felt fine when I turned 40. It only started last year. I’ll be 43 next week, but I feel so much older than that. Hopefully that will all change 😉

  6. Cathy (MummyTravels)

    Hope your knee feels better soon – it’s hard to stop and rest when you have kdis. I definitely notice that as the birthdays pass that I often feel the same inside but it will take bruises or grazes longer to heal, and odd aches suddenly appear. I have a feeling in 10, 20 years, it will still be taking me by surprise!

  7. Ickle Pickle

    Ouch to your poor knee 🙁 I hope Little T is better soon. I am 44 and feel it! I have three teens and Pickle is 3, so I am run ragged most of the time! Kaz x

    • With three teens and a three-year-old? You are super-woman! 😉 Thank you. x

  8. georgina prince

    I fell on my knee not too long ago and omg it was horrendous, they thought it was broke sent me too a and e, luckily no break but i was in so much pain for well over a month with it x

    • Over a month? Oh no. I do hope mine doesn’t last that long. Still have some packing to do and a house move… If only one can delay recovery? 😉

  9. Laura @dearbearandbeany

    How horrible for you, I hope your knee is recovering ok. Being a mum has definitely aged me over the last 3 years and it takes a lot more time to make me look half decent on the rare occasions I got out! 🙂

    • I don’t even remember the last time I went out. Oh no, wait. I think it was on Christmas day when we had our Christmas dinner out with my in-laws in a proper restaurant. Like you mentioned, it took me ages to get ready too 😉

  10. Oh, I feel your pain. I had my youngest kid when I was 40 and it sometimes bothers me that I’m so much older than all the other dads when I pick her up from nursery. Then I think, sod it. I’m a good dad because I’m a good dad – nothing to do with age! I bet you’re just the same 🙂

    • Thanks Grant 😉 I’m not really bothered with the age. They are just numbers right? It’s the aches and pains that really get to me 😉 To be fair though, my husband and I are not the oldest parents in T’s school. When she was in play school, my husband even met a dad there who was 60+. I think he was as old as my dad. So nope, nothing to do with numbers at all 😉

  11. Silly Mummy

    Oh no – hope you start to feel better soon! I don’t do too badly (though children are not good on back), but I don’t have time to exercise like I used to so don’t feel as fit as I once did.

    • Can I count walking the dog and my daughter from school as exercise? 😉 Our current house is up the hill 😉 x

  12. Ana De- Jesus

    Poor you hun hope you and the family feel better soon. I feel a lot older than my 22 years I am always in a lot of pain and my lack of energy is stifling. I have the muscles of a 50 year old.

  13. Oh I hope you feel better soon and get some time to relax and look after yourself as well as everyone around you x

  14. I am in my 30’s and am constantly being told that if I dont have kids soon, I wont be able to cope with the stresses and strains age takes on your body…

    • Women here give age later in their lives and that’s completely fine. I gave birth to T when I was 37. That was actually the first time I ever head the term “geriatric mum”. Was startled when I heard it, but the midwife said “Oh don’t worry, it’s just a medical term”. My aches and pains has nothing to do with being a mum, I think I should really just take care of myself more. There’s absolutely nothing for you to worry about 🙂 x

  15. Hannah Budding Smiles

    I hope you and Little T are both loads better soon. I’m 30 in September and have always felt really fit and healthy up until my current pregnancy. Now all I seem to do is oooh and aaah in pain and it’s been like that for 2 months with 1 month still to go!xx

    • One month to go? How exciting! Will keep my fingers crossed and hope somehow all the pain goes away for you. x

  16. Little Pickle's Mom

    Ah Dean, your fall sounds super painful – I hope your knee has really improved since then – limping 6 days after does not sound good at all! If it’s still hurting, maybe it’s worth getting looked at? I do feel a little old before my time at the moment, but that has more to do with being 7 months pregnant I think! All of a sudden, my body can’t move as quickly or with as much agile as it used to… hopefully not a sign of things to come.

    Hope you can get a bit of rest soon, sounds like you could do with just some time out. Maybe a spa day treat soon?!

    • Sending you good vibes and energy all through out your pregnancy! 🙂 x Thanks. I’m seeing our GP again on the 18th. Hope she has more answers for me, but somehow I doubt it. Spa day treat sounds lovely! I think the last time I had one was long before T was born. x

  17. Louise Smith

    I’m only 31 and feel so old some days. I have scoliosis though and the pain from that is unbearable at times. It’s definitely worsened over the years though and I do think it’s got a lot to do with getting older. I don’t have any pearls of wisdom to offer unfortunately, but if you’re anything like me you’ll find some days are worse than others. I treasure the days I don’t ache!!

    • I can’t even imagine how bad the pain can be. My sister-in-law has scoliosis and I see how much she suffers. Same here, I too treasure the days that I don’t ache. x

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